Exact Tools to Beat the 3 Most Common Insecurities
You may often lose confidence in social situations such as family gatherings, dates, parties, and interviews. Fear of being evaluated and judged as lacking often leads to anxiety and self-consciousness. You might consequently avoid social situations, feel anxious in anticipation of social events, or uncomfortable and self-conscious during such functions. Past experiences often feed negative senses like not belonging, unimportance, as well as not being good enough or interesting. Critical parenting or exclusions during childhood could affect your confidence in a negative manner even as an adult.
This type of common insecurities is based mainly on distorted self-worth beliefs and the extent to which others judge you. As opposed to judging others, most people are primarily focused on how they come across. The judgmental ones are often covering up their insecurities, meaning their opinions could be less than accurate. Such individuals value superficial attributes in place of character and integrity.
Below are a few tools to help you overcome insecurity in social situations:
• Despite personal criticism, remind yourself why you would make an excellent partner or friend and how exciting you are.
• Prepare beforehand by considering a few conversational topics such as current events, movies, hobbies, or family.
• Attend parties or go on a date even though you feel nervous since avoiding social situations only makes matters worse. Engaging with others will reduce your anxiety, even though it might take getting accustomed.
• Set a limited, realistic goal for yourself such as getting to know two new people.
• Focus on others to avoid intense self-focus. Observe and note other people’s feeling and actions because you might learn from some of their skills or notice similarities.
3. Common Insecurities due to perfectionism
You may have set very high standards for whatever you do, which includes the desire to attain the best job, highest grades, or a perfect figure. Unfortunately, life rarely turns out as planned or desired regardless of extra effort. Something almost always remains out of your control, be it another person or genetics. You might feel insecure and unworthy as a result of constant disappointments and self-blame for being less than perfect.
Although working hard and trying your best is beneficial, some aspects of perfectionism are unhealthy. Worrying that you are not good enough often leads to depression, anxiety, eating disorders, or chronic fatigue.
Below are a few ways to overcome perfectionism.
• Evaluate yourself based on your effort and not the outcome since results usually, depend on external factors.
• Consider the potential difference if you were 10% more effective, and whether the time and energy invested then would prove worthwhile.
• Look for more compassionate or understanding ways of viewing situations and consider your circumstances when evaluating yourself. Find out what you may have achieved or learned despite the imperfect outcomes.
• A perfectionist often has conditional self-esteem, meaning self-appreciation comes only when things work out. Learn how to appreciate yourself even when you aren’t performing well by focusing on your inner qualities such as character.
Although many factors contribute to insecurity, overcoming such feelings necessitates individual effort and input. Regardless of advice and assistance, it inevitably comes down to you and whether or not you are willing to try.