How She Learned to Love Nearness Without Shame After a Bad First Experience

They argued over her inability to allow herself to enjoy physical affections while on vacation for their first wedding anniversary. Instead of getting angry, her husband was quite patient, and he slowly persuaded her to keep trying.

To her horror, the sessions were never under the covers like she had been taught it should be. Her husband initiated affections by the sink, on the floor, in the shower, and occasionally on the bed. He always left the lights on and ensured she climaxed every time. When she was ashamed after the climaxes and wanted to hide, he held her and talked about how much he enjoyed giving her pleasure.

As much as it did not happen overnight, getting it on slowly became something she no longer feared but loved. She was soon yearning for more and even became open to trying new things. She remembers feeling so attractive and confident after giving her husband oral for the very first time. They will be married eight years come August, and for the past last six, their romance has been fantastic. She can finally say that she lived without shame.

Having a partner who reassures and assists her to move past shame whenever it rears its head has significantly changed her life for the better. Excellent physical affections significantly contribute to healthy love relationships.

Without the help of her husband, she would never have grown into loving the act of lovemaking. He showed compassion, understanding, and patience. He always reached out, even when she did not think he would. He made their lovemaking open and not what she had been led to expect. He made it more than normal, even to her already biased state of mind. Showing her he cared enough about her feelings and ensuring that in addition to being comfortable, she achieved satisfaction, also significantly contributed to her change of heart.

She is not the only woman in shame when it comes to physical affections. The practice of purity rings and balls continues. Young girls are continually taught to keep themselves pure and hide their bodies. Allowing physical feelings only in marriage and ensuring it is in a pure and godly manner is the encouraged practice. We should stop spreading the gospel that physical affections are shameful acts. Purity rings tell women that their bodies and desires are wrong, sending the message that they must remain pure to be considered as good.

Women should have the ability to choose when to indulge in passionate relations independently. They should also be able to enjoy the whole experience of physical affections without shame. The shame attached to getting down has to stop and archaic beliefs should no longer shape how young women see themselves. Women should not be encouraged to always keep their bodies or desires hidden. Physical affection is an act that feels damn good and should be enjoyed and celebrated by both men and women alike.

Cheers to love life without shame!

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