What To Do When Your Man Lies to You
Not every lie is created equal when it comes to honesty in a relationship. There are some white lies that we as women expect: “Baby, that dress looks amazing on you.” However, there are other lies that are simply unacceptable; “Sorry, I had to work late,” when you drove by his office and didn’t see his car is a game changer. Lying creates an atmosphere where suspicion, mistrust, and insecurity breed. So what is a girl to do when the man she loves looks her in the face and lies directly to her?
To Salvage or Scrap
You first have to decide what and how much you are willing to tolerate, and what you are willing to give up in order to get the respect you deserve. In a marriage, I would almost always advise you try to salvage the relationship unless the lies are covering up for infidelity. However, for those in a dating relationship, know that the patterns you allow before marriage will carry over into your married life. The bottom line is knowing your value and communicating your expectations with your partner. It may seem like common sense to expect honesty and respect from your partner, but these things need to be clearly communicated. Use specific language to tell your partner what honesty means to you.
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For example, “I expect to be given full access to our financial records so I can see where our money is going.” This expectation then becomes a boundary, and you need to have a plan for what to do if that boundary is broken. In many cases you may need to be willing to walk away from the relationship – maybe only temporarily – in order to show the seriousness of your words.