THIS Can Predict How Much Proximity You’ll Have in Your Relationship
Similar Personality Traits Predict Different Outcomes at Different Life Stages
The Big 5 personality traits mentioned above pop up often in research regarding personality and relationships. A report published in Psychology and Aging in 2007 compared these traits in married couples and found something interesting. It seems that couples who have similar personality traits were closer in the early years of their marriage, but got less close later in life.
It is possible that it is easier to be similar earlier in life, but when life gets more demanding, having different traits is helpful. A couple can achieve more when each has their own strengths. Nonetheless, this can be overcome by deciding together how to handle situations neither enjoys. For example, if both parties hate balancing the checkbook, take turns or hire someone else to manage your finances.
Remember that well-matched personalities do not result in perfect, conflict-free relationships. In fact, experts still don’t know what two well-matched personalities will necessarily look like. If similar traits are good in early life, but can result in conflict later, should you look for opposite traits and power through it early on or similar traits and work through it later? None of these questions have answers, but that’s okay. Relationships aren’t meant to be predictable.
There is no question that the personality traits that determine how you behave help determine how close you feel and are to your partner. Researchers are still exploring all of the subtle and obvious effects personality has on the closeness of relationships. With more knowledge of what causes a lack of closeness and insight into how to develop closeness, couples can be better equipped to handle problems within relationships.