15 Warning Signs That Show Up Too Late in Relationship
We’re all familiar with the typical dating red flags. People give themselves way early on and after a few hard lessons, we’re able to quickly tell who’s worth our time and who needs their number blocked ASAP. Unfortunately, some people are very good at disguising who they truly are, and we may find ourselves in what feels like a happy, committed relationship, though we can’t shake the suspicion that something’s just not quite right.
There are telltale signs that will appear later in a relationship that should make you question whether or not this is really the guy for you, usually starting to appear around month four of a relationship. Although it may be harder to say goodbye when you’ve started to fall in love, ending things now can spare you a world of pain in the future. Check out these 15 signs he’s not the one if you’ve been on the fence lately.
1. He Has an Excuse for Everything
Maybe they sound like great reasons. He was helping his friend move. He went away to visit his parents. He worked overtime and just wants to relax. Even if his excuses check out, that doesn’t mean it’s okay for him to constantly put off responsibilities. If you’re living together and he never cleans or contributes to the household care, citing fatigue or distractions, then it’s more than likely his disregard will transfer to other areas of his life as well, i.e. your relationship. What happens when he’s “too tired” to go on a date? If you confront him about it, he most likely responds with annoyance, anger or guilt trips you. This type of guy is skilled at getting away with things and making you feel like the bad guy. It’s not your job to pick up his slack, so cut him loose now while you’re still able to leave relatively unscatched.
2. He Tries to Change Your Values
Whether it’s your religious convictions, long-term goals or views on family, if he tries to alter your moral compass and standpoints on the “big picture” issues, he’s not the one. These men are selfish and only care about satisfying their own needs, molding you into the woman they want because they’re too insensitive and lazy to show you the respect you deserve. This type of man doesn’t like compromise, so even if he seems sweet as sugar while hinting you should try and see things his way, he’s just as toxic and needs to go.
3. He’s Rude
He’ll say things that sting and when you get mad either laugh them off, insisting it was all a joke, or be callous and say he’s not apologizing for being honest. Don’t let a boyfriend convince you that honesty is mean. Sure, the truth hurts from time to time, but someone who loves you will always go out of their way to deliver it in a manner that is gentle and supportive.