She Slept Around All Summer. Here’s What She Discovered
Throughout most of her college career, Kirsten might as well have worn an invisible chastity belt. Most people probably believe she’s not the promiscuous type, but that’s not true. There was a handful of moments in her life when her drunk alter ego found herself in peculiar situations. And while she initially wanted to pat herself on the back for such conquests, she realized the implications of her actions would be sending a whole lot of negativity her way. She suddenly realized what the heck she was missing out on in college. Through engaging in relationships with all different types of people, here are the things she learned:
Why is it if a man sleeps with multiple partners, he is regarded a master in the boudoir, but if a woman does the same, she is called a tramp? Does the double standard that promiscuity only benefits the male persuasion still exist?
Whether man or woman, one needs to think about what they are doing beforehand. When making love, changing partners doesn’t equate to changing of emotion, or lack of thereof. People often confuse lust for love only to have their heart broken the day after even though they knew that they were only fooling themselves from the beginning.
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First and foremost, we need to be true to ourselves. If we want to engage without any strings attached, then feel free. As long as you are 100 percent honest with yourself, it’s okay. You have to be able to face yourself the day after, and if you don’t think you can, then it might be time to rethink your plan of action.
Being with someone will not help you forget your ex or make your “partner” love you. Real love evolves over time and is built of a solid foundation. Think of it as if you are putting together a jigsaw puzzle and finding all the right pieces. Giving yourself to someone physically, doesn’t make them fall head over heels in love with you. It does give them the green light to treat you exactly the way you offered.
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A woman should never feel guilty for something she has or hasn’t done with a man. A good rule of thumb, if you even think you will have “buyer’s remorse”, you probably will. A good man will call you no matter what DOESN’T transpire.
As we travel through life, we might take a lot of wrong turns to finally find the right path. Bad decisions don’t make you a bad person. What they make you are smarter the next time around. Making mistakes helps us decide what we will and won’t tolerate in relationships. Men, just like women, need to make a few wrong turns before they find the right way.
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I have often pondered if social attitudes towards certain “behaviors” can affect one’s level of happiness. If I partake in a behavior that was considered taboo and unacceptable from a social standpoint, would I be unhappy due to the lack of acceptance or because of my own actions?