10 Telltale Signs You’re Too Dependent On Your Significant Other!
It is completely normal to be clingy to some degree in every relationship. The very fact that you’re clingy means you don’t want to spend time apart. That’s the kind of sugary sweet relationship we all hope for, right? Sometimes… but it becomes unhealthy when clinginess prevents normal life from happening. There are a number of ways to tell that you are too clingy.
This of your relationship as a campfire. It’s beautiful and full of flames and heat. It takes air being breathed into a relationship, just like a fire, to make it last. Smothering is good if you’re putting out the fire. Let me repeat, IF YOU ARE PUTTING OUT THE FIRE. That means if you do not allow breathing room, you will smother any chance for flames. In this case, smothering will push your special someone away.
Obviously you can read writing or you wouldn’t be reading this article. Your partner’s body language will speak volumes as to how clingy or not clingy you are. For instance, if you sit down on the couch and they get up and move away without even (or with) realizing it, you’re pushing you’re luck. If they have crossed arms or clasped hands, chances are they don’t want to hold hands or be hung on.
Just as you cannot work 24/7, you can’t work on your relationship 24/7, so take a break! You can be rewarded with closeness, friendship and compassion from going out with friends and having girls night. You can get a breath of freshness into the relationship by having your own time away from your loved one.
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Every new relationship starts out the same, you want as much time as possible together. However, that will fade once life takes hold. Jobs, family, sports, kids and other obligations get in the way of spending every available minute together. It doesn’t mean your partner likes you less, it means they’re including you in their day-to-day life.
Your partner shouldn’t be expected to spend every thought on you. It’s ok that they have a life. That means they may talk about people including opposite gender. This is NORMAL and HEALTHY. Ask yourself this, if they were going to cheat on you, would they tell you about the person? Didn’t think so either.
When you find yourself needing more time with the person than can humanly be possible, then find a way to preoccupy yourself. Surround yourself with stuff to do that you enjoy. This doesn’t have to be something your partner is interested in, after all this is YOUR time to enjoy YOUR hobby.
Make sure you’re not being too clingy to allow your partner to take care of responsibilities. The picture comes to mind of a person literally clinging onto their partner’s leg as they’re trying to leave. Let them go do what they need to do. Chances are they’ll be thinking of you while gone anyway!
All too often, we will mold ourselves around the ones we love. Before long, our dreams are theirs, our goals are theirs, our actions follow theirs. That’s find as long as that’s what you deeply, truly want out of life. Follow your own dreams, your partner will respect you for it.
In a nutshell, you need to give your partner breathing room, watch their body language, take time out, allow for normal life to take part of your time and be yourself. Also a huge issue that people face is to not be jealous. If you don’t have trust, what do you have? Relationships need a solid foundation of trust and air to grow. Give your love one space, find yourself through hobbies and your own goals and you’ll have a better chance at a healthier relationship.