8 Things Women Think Men Are Into, But They Are NOT
Stereotyping is a window through which the world seems less complex. We use it as a reference point for how to relate to people. The problem with pigeonholing is that it doesn’t reflect reality. Typecasting ignores the wonderful fact that people are individuals. Labeling limits the expansive possibilities of relationship. Many myths exist about men that women mistakenly believe. Here we shine light on the shadows of misconceptions regarding men.
MYTH #1 – Men are unemotional. Though a man may not get misty while watching the movie “Ghost,” it doesn’t mean he isn’t moved. From childhood, boys are taught that showing emotion signals weakness. So they learn to wear a macho mask. They hide their feelings and are less verbal than women. In fact, a word count study showed that women say 25,000 words a day while men utter 12,000.
INSIGHT #1 – A man may shift his emotions into an acceptable gear of expression. For example, sports events are safe places where men give free rein to their feelings. Players don’t hesitate to indulge in exuberant high-fives and hugs.
It isn’t that fellows are unfeeling. They’ve been trapped by societal beliefs that it’s unmanly to openly hurt, cry, or mourn.
MYTH #2 – A hot body is the main attraction in a woman.
Fox News Magazine cites seven traits that guys find most desirable:
INSIGHT #2 – A stable, happy woman is more important to a man than appearance.
MYTH #3 – Men are incapable of commitment.
Although a man may be afraid to commit, it doesn’t mean he can’t. There may be many reasons for his reticence:
- He may have unresolved pain from the past. If he’s a child of divorce, he’s got emotional scars. If his heart has been broken, his wound may still be raw.
- He’s uncomfortable taking a risk. There are no guarantees a relationship will stand the course of time. He may be hesitant to invest himself in the unknown.
- He may think commitment is equivalent to being trapped. He may fear the emotional dependence that develops over time.
As further evidence of the capacity to commit, consider research results by The Huffington Post. Market analysts polled 250,000 men regarding dating, communication, romance, and marriage. When asked if they would cheat on their partner, 81 percent said they would never, even if they could sidestep being caught.
INSIGHT #3 – Men appreciate loyalty. They want to feel valued and loved. Once their fears are understood, they can be addressed. A man whose anxieties have been resolved won’t drag his feet on the path to the altar.
MYTH #4 – When he falls asleep right after making love, it means the relationship isn’t strong.
After lovemaking, a man’s body chemistry changes. Three hormones are released that usher in sleep. Prolactin, oxytocin, and GABA all trigger the need to conk out. For a woman, cuddling after coupling increases the sense of closeness. For a man, it requires effort to stay awake and snuggle.
INSIGHT #4 – When a man immediately nods off after lovemaking, it means he’s happy and satisfied.